Heal Your Heartbreak Podcast
Every Tuesday I have a new episode of the Heal Your Heartbreak Podcast where I talk about a different topic as it relates to break ups, healing your heartbreak, growing in your single life, and moving into happier and healthier relationships.
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#286 Navigating the Final Stretch of Breakup Recovery
In today's solo episode, I'm diving into what I call the final 10% of breakup recovery—that last stretch where you feel mostly healed, but still find yourself thinking about your ex, feeling frustrated, or just not quite “over it” yet. I talk through why this stage can feel so uncomfortable, how it's completely normal to still have lingering curiosity or sadness, and why rushing through it doesn't actually help. I share my top tips for approaching this stage with curiosity rather than judgment, including continuing to journal, reflecting on your progress, and even considering dipping your toe back into dating—when the time is right for you. I also discuss how these lingering feelings can reveal deeper lessons and opportunities for growth. Whether you're nearing the end of your breakup journey or just want to know what to expect, this episode is all about normalizing the messy, imperfect end stages of healing and encouraging you to trust your own process.
#285 Out of the Ashes: Courtney Peppernell’s Journey Through Heartbreak and Emotional Abuse
In today’s episode, I’m joined by internationally bestselling poet and author Courtney Peppernell to talk about her deeply personal new book, Out of the Ashes. Courtney opens up about her seven-year relationship that ended in emotional abuse and infidelity, and what it was like to recognize the toxic dynamics only in hindsight. We explore how she navigated feelings of shame, guilt, and even imposter syndrome as someone whose career centers around writing about love and connection. Courtney shares how therapy, creative expression, and rebuilding trust in herself helped her heal—and why learning to embrace difficult emotions, especially anger, is essential to recovery. We also discuss the difference between healthy and emotionally abusive relationships, what it means to “rise from the ashes,” and how to reconnect with your intuition after heartbreak. This is a powerful conversation about reclaiming your voice, rebuilding self-worth, and knowing that your best days still lie ahead.
#284 Let the Truth Set You Free: Amber Rae’s Story of Leaving to Love
In today's episode, I'm joined by international best-selling author Amber Rae of the book Loveable, who shares her incredible story of breaking free from a nine-year sexless marriage after realizing she was living out a "good girl" narrative that kept her needs and desires suppressed. Amber and I dive into the difficult process of coming to terms with a relationship that looks good on paper but isn't fulfilling in reality, how meeting a soulmate became the catalyst for honesty and change, and the often-unspoken shame around discussing intimacy issues within relationships. We talk about rationalizing our way into staying, the courage it takes to leave, and the even deeper work of healing childhood wounds and learning to show up authentically in a new relationship. Amber also shares what it was like navigating others’ judgments, processing her family history, and building a partnership based on true connection and willingness. Whether you’re questioning your relationship or seeking permission to honor your own needs, this conversation is all about finding freedom and self-love on the other side of heartbreak.
#283 Listener Episode: Breaking Anxious-Avoidant Patterns with Chris
In today’s listener episode, I’m interviewing Chris, a man in his late 30s living in Arizona who is nearly two years out from a relationship that was marked by a classic anxious-avoidant dynamic. Chris opens up about navigating repeated breakup and reconciliation cycles with his ex, coming to terms with patterns of emotional unavailability, and the challenging process of finally walking away for good. We talk about what taking a full year to be single and focus on self-growth looked like for him, the deep patterns he noticed (both in his ex and himself), and how therapy and community support helped him rebuild his confidence after feeling completely lost. Chris also shares how dating again after a long break led him to a new, much healthier relationship, and what it’s been like to rewire old patterns and experience genuine emotional safety with a partner. This conversation is a refreshing look at heartbreak, healing, and growth from the male perspective, and I know so many listeners will relate to Chris’s story.
#282 The Power of Doing What You Don’t Feel Like After a Breakup
In today’s solo episode, I’m diving deep into one of my favorite—and most powerful—tools for breakup recovery: contrary action. I talk about how, in the midst of heartbreak, your thoughts and feelings can often steer you in the wrong direction, and why doing the opposite of what you feel like doing can be a true game changer. I share actionable ways to put contrary action into practice, how routines can support your healing, and why building self-trust and self-esteem really starts with showing up for yourself—especially when it feels hardest. I also discuss the tricky balance between listening to your feelings and pushing yourself just enough, providing tips for what to do when motivation is at its lowest. If you’re feeling stuck or unsure how to move forward, this episode is for you!
#281 Loneliness and the Power of Radical Listening with Dr. Robert Biswas-Diener
In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by Dr. Robert Biswas Diener, pioneer in positive psychology and co-author of the book “Radical Listening.” We dive into the power of radical listening—what it actually looks like, why it’s so hard to practice during breakups, and how improving your listening skills can radically change how you process heartbreak and receive support. Dr. Robert and I talk about why loneliness is so prevalent right now, how to coach your friends and family to be better listeners, and why so many people feel misunderstood during a split. We also dig into why it’s important to understand your motives when you’re listening—or when you’re sharing—and how to ask for the kind of support you need, whether that’s to be heard, hugged, or helped. Plus, we cover what to do when you have to listen to things you really don’t want to hear (like “I don’t want to be in this relationship anymore”) and how so much clarity actually comes from hindsight listening. This conversation is packed with practical advice for anyone navigating heartbreak, wanting to be a better support system, or looking to have healthier conversations—breakup or not.
#280 Learning to Love Better with Yung Pueblo
In today’s episode I’m joined by none other than Diego Perez—who many of you know as Yung Pueblo. This was such a pinch-me moment for me, getting to sit down with the author behind so many of my favorite books, and especially his newest release, “How To Love Better.” Diego opens up about his relationship with his wife and how their journey became the foundation for this new book. We talk about self-awareness, the idea of impermanence in relationships (and why we resist change so much), and how working on ourselves transforms the quality of our connections. Diego also shares his thoughts on how to accept breakups, when it might be time to let go, and why letting an incompatible relationship drag on can be an injustice to everyone involved. Whether you’re healing from heartbreak, looking to grow in your single life, or reflecting on what you want in your next relationship, there’s so much wisdom packed into this conversation.
#279 Stop Calling It a Discard, You Are Not Trash
In today’s solo episode, I’m diving into a term I’ve seen popping up everywhere lately—“discard”—especially in the context of avoidant attachment styles and breakups. I share how I started noticing this lingo in my Q&As on Instagram, did some research, and why the use of “discard” really doesn’t sit right with me. I break down why I believe using this term is harmful, how it can lower self-esteem, invalidate your relationship experience, and make moving forward so much harder. I also touch on the dangers of getting too wrapped up in therapy-speak and diagnostic labels instead of just allowing yourself to process the real sadness and pain of heartbreak. If you’ve felt “thrown away” in a blindsided or one-sided breakup, this episode is for you—I hope it helps you feel seen and reminds you not to tie your worth to someone else’s inability to commit.
#278 The Power of Detachment with Dr. Bob Rosen
In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by Dr. Bob Rosen—psychologist, New York Times bestselling author, and business advisor—to dive into the concept of attachment, and specifically, how our attachments can hold us back in breakups and beyond. We explore key themes from his latest book, “Detached,” including the attachment to stability, the past, control, and even perfectionism. Dr. Rosen shares how these attachments are often rooted in fear, why learning to embrace uncertainty is so critical, and how self-love plays a pivotal role in healing after heartbreak. We also discuss the importance of community, the difference between detaching and disassociating, and practical strategies for letting go of what no longer serves us. If you’ve ever felt stuck after a breakup or struggled with moving on, this episode is packed with insight, actionable advice, and a reminder that healing is a practice—not a one-time event. To take the detachment assessment you can click here.
#277 Why Your Brain Feels Stuck with Britt Frank
In today’s expert episode I’m joined by Britt Frank—author, speaker, and licensed neuropsychotherapist—who has been on my wish list for ages. We dive deep into the connection between breaking free from an addiction to substances and breaking free from an ex, and Britt so beautifully shares why our brains actually are on our side (even when it doesn’t feel like it!). We talk about why feeling “stuck” after a breakup is so common, the power of micro yeses in healing, and how to stop fighting with our own minds during heartbreak. Britt also explains how aligning different parts of our minds can help us move forward, and we get super real about grief, shame, and wiring our brains for healthier relationships. Plus, we discuss Britt’s latest book, Align Your Mind, and her previous book, The Science of Stuck, both of which are game changers for anyone struggling with breakups. This conversation is packed with compassion, actionable tools, and so many “ah-ha” moments—I can’t wait for you to listen!
#276 Listener Episode: Breaking the On and Off Cycle
In today’s listener episode, I’m talking with Dionne, a proud Gen Xer who shares her story of a six-and-a-half-year, very on-again, off-again relationship that was marked by several breakups—some lasting just a weekend, others stretching to six months. We discuss how easy and addictive the breakup-get-back-together cycle can be, especially for those with anxious attachment styles, and the emotional toll it takes over time. Dionne opens up about the moment she finally decided to choose herself and the power of sticking to no contact after their final breakup. We also touch on the importance of self-compassion, learning from past patterns, and making empowered choices as you move forward in healing. I know so many of you will resonate with Dionne’s self-awareness and reflection, and I hope this episode inspires anyone who is struggling to break free from a similar relationship cycle.
#275 The Power of Rock Bottom
In today's solo episode, I'm diving into the topic of hitting "rock bottom" after a breakup—what it really means, why it matters, and how it can actually be a catalyst for deep change and healing. I share personal stories and draw some powerful parallels to sobriety and recovery, discussing why so many of us avoid fully feeling the pain after a breakup and the ways we try to distract or numb ourselves to avoid that lowest point. We talk about the importance of allowing yourself to truly be "done," what that looks like (and doesn't look like), and why embracing the pain instead of fighting it can provide the motivation you need to start genuinely healing. If you're struggling to let go, stuck in a cycle with your ex, or afraid of facing the sadness, this episode is here to remind you that rock bottom can be a turning point—and that this, too, shall pass.
#274 Healing Heartbreak with Intuition and Action with Laura Day
In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by New York Times bestselling author Laura Day to dive into her newest book, The Prism, through the lens of heartbreak and healing. Laura and I talk about why breakups are so uniquely painful, what happens in our brains and bodies when we lose a relationship, and how intuition and ego both play a role in how we cope. We get into the seven centers of the ego, how the structures of our previous relationships can become both comfort and prison, and Laura shares practical tools for redirecting your energy after a breakup—rather than just telling yourself to “stop thinking about them.” We also cover the phenomenon of telepathic communication with exes, how to cut those invisible ties, the importance of rituals around breakups, and why action and building new routines are essential to healing. If you want real, actionable advice to rebuild after heartbreak (plus a peek into Laura’s own story), this episode is packed with wisdom and support.
#273 Using CBT to Rewire Your Thoughts with Judith Belmont
In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by Judith Belmont, an experienced therapist and author of multiple self-help books, including her latest, “110 CBT Tips and Tools.” We dive deep into the practical side of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and how its tools can help you through a breakup. Judith shares the most common unhelpful thought patterns people get stuck in after heartbreak, like all-or-nothing thinking and fortune telling, and gives actionable advice on how to identify, reframe, and work through those thoughts. We also talk about the difference between healthy journaling and spiraling, how to build self-compassion, and why healing is about getting through—not just getting over—a breakup. If you’re looking for tangible ways to support yourself and shift your mindset while feeling seen in your grief, you won’t want to miss this conversation.
#272 How Overusing Therapy Terms Can Hurt Your Breakup Recovery with Dr. Isabelle Morley
In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by Dr. Isabelle Morley, a clinical psychologist specializing in couples therapy and author of the recently released book They’re Not Gaslighting You. We dive deep into the rise and overuse of “therapy speak”—think labels like gaslighting, narcissism, and red flags—and how these terms, while validating for many, can sometimes stall real healing after a breakup. Dr. Morley and I discuss why we’re so quick to diagnose our exes, the emotional pay-off behind it, and how social media has amplified these trends in dating and relationships. We also explore how focusing on an ex’s pathology can keep us stuck, the real definitions behind words like “love bombing” and “gaslighting,” and how to safely navigate vulnerability and boundaries in new relationships. If you’re finding yourself lost in TikTok jargon or anxious about red flags, this episode will help you set the record straight and refocus your energy on real healing.
#271 Amicable Doesn't Mean Painless: Listener Story with Marc
In today’s listener episode, I’m interviewing Marc, a man in his early 40s from the East Coast who is sharing the story of his recent breakup after an eight year relationship. Marc opens up about navigating an incredibly rare amicable breakup and what it really looks like to end things with kindness and respect—even when it’s still deeply painful. We talk about how the loss of his mom a year and a half before the breakup was a pivotal moment that changed his perspective on his relationship, and how his ex played a huge role in caring for his mother during that time. Marc shares the complexities of grieving alongside breaking up, the challenges of sharing a dog post-breakup, how family dynamics influenced his choices, and the importance of leaning on friends and community. This is such a powerful and honest look at what happens when “amicable” doesn’t mean “easy,” and what true healing looks like after so much loss.
#270 Reclaiming Yourself After Heartbreak: How to Take Back What Was Lost
Today I’m taking you solo through a topic that hits close to home—reclaiming the things that feel lost after a breakup. Whether it’s a favorite song, a restaurant, a hobby, or even an entire part of town, breakups often leave us avoiding things we used to love.
In this episode, I’m sharing stories from listeners and my own experience about what we feel our exes “took” from us, and how I learned to gently approach those triggers in my own healing process. I’ll walk you through figuring out what’s actually worth bringing back into your life, when you might be ready, and how to create new, empowering rituals around those things.
#269 How to Forgive with Dara McKinley
In today’s episode, I’m chatting with forgiveness expert Dara McKinley. We’re tackling a topic that’s come up a lot in breakups but rarely gets broken down: how do you actually forgive?
Dara shares her personal story about searching for step-by-step advice on forgiveness and realizing that most resources only tell us why we "should" forgive—and not how. Together, we unpack common misconceptions, like thinking forgiveness means excusing someone’s behavior, and explore why it’s really about finding peace for yourself.
We touch on the importance of timing, self-forgiveness, and why forgiveness is a tool for your own healing, not something that lets anyone else off the hook. If you’re struggling with resentment after a breakup or are just feeling stuck, this episode is for you. And if you want to go deeper, Dara’s “How to Forgive” course is available now!
#268 From Shock to Sadness: How Breakup Pain Evolves Over Time
In today’s solo episode, I’m diving deep into what it’s really like to go through the initial shock after a breakup. I’ll share what those first days can feel like—whether you’re in disbelief, feeling numb, caught up in logistical details, or hoping your ex might come back. I’ll talk about why it’s completely normal if the deepest pain doesn’t hit right away, and remind you that however you’re experiencing your breakup, you’re not alone. If you’re feeling confused, overwhelmed, or just not yourself, this episode is here to help you understand and validate those emotions.
#267 Empowering Your Fertility Journey After Breakup: Real Talk with Dr. Lucky Sekhon
In this episode I'm finally diving into one of the most-requested topics: fertility and the realities of the biological clock, especially when you're going through a breakup. I’m joined by Dr. Lucky Sekhon, an incredible double board-certified fertility expert based in NYC, who breaks down everything from egg freezing and IVF to solo parenting and common misconceptions about age and fertility.
Dr. Lucky explains the latest advances in reproductive health, gives practical advice on choosing the right clinic, and shares how fertility preservation is helping people avoid settling for the wrong relationships just to have kids. Whether you’re navigating heartbreak or just anxious about your future family-building options, this conversation is hopeful, informative, and full of resources—including a sneak peek of Dr. Lucky’s upcoming book, "The Lucky Egg."
If you’re worried about your timeline or need reassurance about your path to parenthood, I know you’ll find this episode incredibly supportive and empowering.