Heal Your Heartbreak Podcast
Every Tuesday I have a new episode of the Heal Your Heartbreak Podcast where I talk about a different topic as it relates to break ups, healing your heartbreak, growing in your single life, and moving into happier and healthier relationships.
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Heal Your Heartbreak Episodes
#280 Learning to Love Better with Yung Pueblo
In today’s episode I’m joined by none other than Diego Perez—who many of you know as Yung Pueblo. This was such a pinch-me moment for me, getting to sit down with the author behind so many of my favorite books, and especially his newest release, “How To Love Better.” Diego opens up about his relationship with his wife and how their journey became the foundation for this new book. We talk about self-awareness, the idea of impermanence in relationships (and why we resist change so much), and how working on ourselves transforms the quality of our connections. Diego also shares his thoughts on how to accept breakups, when it might be time to let go, and why letting an incompatible relationship drag on can be an injustice to everyone involved. Whether you’re healing from heartbreak, looking to grow in your single life, or reflecting on what you want in your next relationship, there’s so much wisdom packed into this conversation.
#279 Stop Calling It a Discard, You Are Not Trash
In today’s solo episode, I’m diving into a term I’ve seen popping up everywhere lately—“discard”—especially in the context of avoidant attachment styles and breakups. I share how I started noticing this lingo in my Q&As on Instagram, did some research, and why the use of “discard” really doesn’t sit right with me. I break down why I believe using this term is harmful, how it can lower self-esteem, invalidate your relationship experience, and make moving forward so much harder. I also touch on the dangers of getting too wrapped up in therapy-speak and diagnostic labels instead of just allowing yourself to process the real sadness and pain of heartbreak. If you’ve felt “thrown away” in a blindsided or one-sided breakup, this episode is for you—I hope it helps you feel seen and reminds you not to tie your worth to someone else’s inability to commit.
#278 The Power of Detachment with Dr. Bob Rosen
In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by Dr. Bob Rosen—psychologist, New York Times bestselling author, and business advisor—to dive into the concept of attachment, and specifically, how our attachments can hold us back in breakups and beyond. We explore key themes from his latest book, “Detached,” including the attachment to stability, the past, control, and even perfectionism. Dr. Rosen shares how these attachments are often rooted in fear, why learning to embrace uncertainty is so critical, and how self-love plays a pivotal role in healing after heartbreak. We also discuss the importance of community, the difference between detaching and disassociating, and practical strategies for letting go of what no longer serves us. If you’ve ever felt stuck after a breakup or struggled with moving on, this episode is packed with insight, actionable advice, and a reminder that healing is a practice—not a one-time event. To take the detachment assessment you can click here.
#277 Why Your Brain Feels Stuck with Britt Frank
In today’s expert episode I’m joined by Britt Frank—author, speaker, and licensed neuropsychotherapist—who has been on my wish list for ages. We dive deep into the connection between breaking free from an addiction to substances and breaking free from an ex, and Britt so beautifully shares why our brains actually are on our side (even when it doesn’t feel like it!). We talk about why feeling “stuck” after a breakup is so common, the power of micro yeses in healing, and how to stop fighting with our own minds during heartbreak. Britt also explains how aligning different parts of our minds can help us move forward, and we get super real about grief, shame, and wiring our brains for healthier relationships. Plus, we discuss Britt’s latest book, Align Your Mind, and her previous book, The Science of Stuck, both of which are game changers for anyone struggling with breakups. This conversation is packed with compassion, actionable tools, and so many “ah-ha” moments—I can’t wait for you to listen!
#276 Listener Episode: Breaking the On and Off Cycle
In today’s listener episode, I’m talking with Dionne, a proud Gen Xer who shares her story of a six-and-a-half-year, very on-again, off-again relationship that was marked by several breakups—some lasting just a weekend, others stretching to six months. We discuss how easy and addictive the breakup-get-back-together cycle can be, especially for those with anxious attachment styles, and the emotional toll it takes over time. Dionne opens up about the moment she finally decided to choose herself and the power of sticking to no contact after their final breakup. We also touch on the importance of self-compassion, learning from past patterns, and making empowered choices as you move forward in healing. I know so many of you will resonate with Dionne’s self-awareness and reflection, and I hope this episode inspires anyone who is struggling to break free from a similar relationship cycle.
#275 The Power of Rock Bottom
In today's solo episode, I'm diving into the topic of hitting "rock bottom" after a breakup—what it really means, why it matters, and how it can actually be a catalyst for deep change and healing. I share personal stories and draw some powerful parallels to sobriety and recovery, discussing why so many of us avoid fully feeling the pain after a breakup and the ways we try to distract or numb ourselves to avoid that lowest point. We talk about the importance of allowing yourself to truly be "done," what that looks like (and doesn't look like), and why embracing the pain instead of fighting it can provide the motivation you need to start genuinely healing. If you're struggling to let go, stuck in a cycle with your ex, or afraid of facing the sadness, this episode is here to remind you that rock bottom can be a turning point—and that this, too, shall pass.
#274 Healing Heartbreak with Intuition and Action with Laura Day
In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by New York Times bestselling author Laura Day to dive into her newest book, The Prism, through the lens of heartbreak and healing. Laura and I talk about why breakups are so uniquely painful, what happens in our brains and bodies when we lose a relationship, and how intuition and ego both play a role in how we cope. We get into the seven centers of the ego, how the structures of our previous relationships can become both comfort and prison, and Laura shares practical tools for redirecting your energy after a breakup—rather than just telling yourself to “stop thinking about them.” We also cover the phenomenon of telepathic communication with exes, how to cut those invisible ties, the importance of rituals around breakups, and why action and building new routines are essential to healing. If you want real, actionable advice to rebuild after heartbreak (plus a peek into Laura’s own story), this episode is packed with wisdom and support.
#273 Using CBT to Rewire Your Thoughts with Judith Belmont
In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by Judith Belmont, an experienced therapist and author of multiple self-help books, including her latest, “110 CBT Tips and Tools.” We dive deep into the practical side of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and how its tools can help you through a breakup. Judith shares the most common unhelpful thought patterns people get stuck in after heartbreak, like all-or-nothing thinking and fortune telling, and gives actionable advice on how to identify, reframe, and work through those thoughts. We also talk about the difference between healthy journaling and spiraling, how to build self-compassion, and why healing is about getting through—not just getting over—a breakup. If you’re looking for tangible ways to support yourself and shift your mindset while feeling seen in your grief, you won’t want to miss this conversation.
#272 How Overusing Therapy Terms Can Hurt Your Breakup Recovery with Dr. Isabelle Morley
In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by Dr. Isabelle Morley, a clinical psychologist specializing in couples therapy and author of the recently released book They’re Not Gaslighting You. We dive deep into the rise and overuse of “therapy speak”—think labels like gaslighting, narcissism, and red flags—and how these terms, while validating for many, can sometimes stall real healing after a breakup. Dr. Morley and I discuss why we’re so quick to diagnose our exes, the emotional pay-off behind it, and how social media has amplified these trends in dating and relationships. We also explore how focusing on an ex’s pathology can keep us stuck, the real definitions behind words like “love bombing” and “gaslighting,” and how to safely navigate vulnerability and boundaries in new relationships. If you’re finding yourself lost in TikTok jargon or anxious about red flags, this episode will help you set the record straight and refocus your energy on real healing.
#271 Amicable Doesn't Mean Painless: Listener Story with Marc
In today’s listener episode, I’m interviewing Marc, a man in his early 40s from the East Coast who is sharing the story of his recent breakup after an eight year relationship. Marc opens up about navigating an incredibly rare amicable breakup and what it really looks like to end things with kindness and respect—even when it’s still deeply painful. We talk about how the loss of his mom a year and a half before the breakup was a pivotal moment that changed his perspective on his relationship, and how his ex played a huge role in caring for his mother during that time. Marc shares the complexities of grieving alongside breaking up, the challenges of sharing a dog post-breakup, how family dynamics influenced his choices, and the importance of leaning on friends and community. This is such a powerful and honest look at what happens when “amicable” doesn’t mean “easy,” and what true healing looks like after so much loss.
#270 Reclaiming Yourself After Heartbreak: How to Take Back What Was Lost
Today I’m taking you solo through a topic that hits close to home—reclaiming the things that feel lost after a breakup. Whether it’s a favorite song, a restaurant, a hobby, or even an entire part of town, breakups often leave us avoiding things we used to love.
In this episode, I’m sharing stories from listeners and my own experience about what we feel our exes “took” from us, and how I learned to gently approach those triggers in my own healing process. I’ll walk you through figuring out what’s actually worth bringing back into your life, when you might be ready, and how to create new, empowering rituals around those things.
#269 How to Forgive with Dara McKinley
In today’s episode, I’m chatting with forgiveness expert Dara McKinley. We’re tackling a topic that’s come up a lot in breakups but rarely gets broken down: how do you actually forgive?
Dara shares her personal story about searching for step-by-step advice on forgiveness and realizing that most resources only tell us why we "should" forgive—and not how. Together, we unpack common misconceptions, like thinking forgiveness means excusing someone’s behavior, and explore why it’s really about finding peace for yourself.
We touch on the importance of timing, self-forgiveness, and why forgiveness is a tool for your own healing, not something that lets anyone else off the hook. If you’re struggling with resentment after a breakup or are just feeling stuck, this episode is for you. And if you want to go deeper, Dara’s “How to Forgive” course is available now!
#268 From Shock to Sadness: How Breakup Pain Evolves Over Time
In today’s solo episode, I’m diving deep into what it’s really like to go through the initial shock after a breakup. I’ll share what those first days can feel like—whether you’re in disbelief, feeling numb, caught up in logistical details, or hoping your ex might come back. I’ll talk about why it’s completely normal if the deepest pain doesn’t hit right away, and remind you that however you’re experiencing your breakup, you’re not alone. If you’re feeling confused, overwhelmed, or just not yourself, this episode is here to help you understand and validate those emotions.
#267 Empowering Your Fertility Journey After Breakup: Real Talk with Dr. Lucky Sekhon
In this episode I'm finally diving into one of the most-requested topics: fertility and the realities of the biological clock, especially when you're going through a breakup. I’m joined by Dr. Lucky Sekhon, an incredible double board-certified fertility expert based in NYC, who breaks down everything from egg freezing and IVF to solo parenting and common misconceptions about age and fertility.
Dr. Lucky explains the latest advances in reproductive health, gives practical advice on choosing the right clinic, and shares how fertility preservation is helping people avoid settling for the wrong relationships just to have kids. Whether you’re navigating heartbreak or just anxious about your future family-building options, this conversation is hopeful, informative, and full of resources—including a sneak peek of Dr. Lucky’s upcoming book, "The Lucky Egg."
If you’re worried about your timeline or need reassurance about your path to parenthood, I know you’ll find this episode incredibly supportive and empowering.
#266 Calling Off a Wedding: Trusting Yourself Through Heartbreak with Katherine Rose Woller
On today’s episode of the Heal Your Heartbreak podcast, I sit down with Katherine Rose Woller, author of "Calling It Off: Memoir of an Almost Bride." Katherine shares her deeply personal story about deciding to call off her wedding just two weeks before it was supposed to happen. Together, we talk honestly about the pressure to stay in relationships, why it’s so important to listen to your intuition, and the emotional reality behind making such a tough choice. If you’re dealing with heartbreak or facing a big relationship decision, this episode is an honest, supportive, and hopeful space for healing and finding your way forward.
#265 Listener Confessions: Most Shocking Breakup Challenges
In this episode of "Heal Your Heartbreak," I explore the raw and often hidden challenges of going through a breakup. I reached out to my Instagram followers and gathered honest, anonymous responses about what surprised them most during their breakup journey. From feeling unexpectedly blindsided and dealing with intense emotions to grappling with forgiveness and missing someone toxic, this episode sheds light on the shared yet personal nature of heartbreak. I want to remind you that you're not alone in this process—everyone's healing journey is unique. Join me as we navigate these feelings together, providing comfort and understanding during this difficult time.
#264 Discovering the Power of Questions in Building Intimacy with Topaz Adizes
In this episode of the "Heal Your Heartbreak" podcast, I have the pleasure of chatting with Topaz Adizes, the incredible director of "The And" and founder of The Skin Deep. Together, we dive into the fascinating world of how deep, intentional questions can significantly elevate relationship intimacy. Topaz opens up about his personal quest for real connection, sharing how the right questions can transform negative thought patterns into opportunities for empowering self-growth. We explore the concept of intimacy as a skill that can be learned and practiced, the importance of deep listening, and the power of creating environments that are both safe and challenging for open dialogue. Additionally, we discuss how the period following a breakup can be a powerful time for introspection and personal development. Whether you're in the midst of healing or looking to deepen your connections, this episode is packed with insights to help you form more meaningful relationships with both yourself and others.
#263 When Sticking to Your Guns Leads to Heartbreak
Welcome back to another episode of the Heal Your Heartbreak podcast, today I'm diving into a topic that's really personal and important—what happens after you stand by your values and it leads to a breakup. This episode, I'm sharing my own experiences and insights on what it's like when your future goals, like wanting kids or marriage, don't align with your partner's. We'll talk about the emotional journey, the self-doubt, and questioning if you're asking for too much. I want you to remember that it's crucial to stay true to who you are in any relationship and that your desires are valid. So if you've found yourself in a situation where your strong beliefs led to a breakup, this one's for you. Join me as we explore how to navigate these challenging times and find compatibility that's true to who you really are.
#262 Boosting Mental Fitness: Dr. Drew Ramsey's Holistic Approach to Healing Heartbreak
In today's episode, we're thrilled to have Drew Ramsey, MD, a psychiatrist, psychotherapist, and author of "Healing the Modern Brain." Drew sheds light on the science of mental fitness and its role in overcoming heartbreak.
He explains the brain's reactions during a breakup and how building mental strength can aid recovery and future resilience. We discuss the importance of nutrition, movement, nature, and connection in emotional healing.
Drew offers practical tools for enhancing self-awareness and creating supportive networks. Whether you're dealing with a breakup or seeking emotional strength, this episode is full of insightful advice. Don't miss out on Drew's book, now available, and enjoy the episode!
#261 Harnessing the Power of Conflict for Healthier Relationships
In this episode of Heal Your Heartbreak, we're exploring the concept of conflict resilience with experts Bob Bourdone and Dr. Joel Salinas. Bob, a negotiation and mediation expert, and Joelle, a neurology professor, have come together to discuss how embracing conflict, rather than avoiding it, can lead to stronger relationships. Their new book, Conflict Resilience, offers insights and practical steps on how to transform disagreements into opportunities for connection.
Join us as our guests share personal stories, like Joel's experience of coming out to conservative parents, and delve into the psychological barriers that prevent us from managing conflict effectively. We'll learn the importance of understanding our own feelings, approaching disagreements with curiosity, and developing resilience to navigate relationship challenges more authentically.
Whether you're dealing with a recent breakup or seeking to strengthen your current relationships, this episode provides valuable advice and insights. Tune in to challenge the norms around conflict and empower yourself to build more resilient connections. Don't forget to check out Bob and Joel's book for more in-depth guidance.