Heal Your Heartbreak Podcast

Every Tuesday I have a new episode of the Heal Your Heartbreak Podcast where I talk about a different topic as it relates to break ups, healing your heartbreak, growing in your single life, and moving into happier and healthier relationships.

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#61 But What if my Relationship was Great?

In this episode I talk about what if your break up was out of a relationship that was great. You can't think of anything wrong with the relationship or your ex so you can't get angry and it doesn't make sense why you should let go. I go over how you can start moving through the break up, how to heal, I knock out some reservations you might have and more!

In this episode I talk about what if your break up was out of a relationship that was great. You can't think of anything wrong with the relationship or your ex so you can't get angry and it doesn't make sense why you should let go. I go over how you can start moving through the break up, how to heal, I knock out some reservations you might have and more! 

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#60 How Will Getting Organized Help with Heartbreak?

Today I am interviewing my good friend Amanda Clark who is a professional organizer. We talk about how getting your space organized helps with your emotional and mental chatter, will give you a sense of peace, can boost your confidence, and that it's an act of self love. We also talk about her process on how to get organized, where to start, how to let go of things you no longer need, and more!

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Today I am interviewing my good friend Amanda Clark who is a professional organizer. We talk about how getting your space organized helps with your emotional and mental chatter, will give you a sense of peace, can boost your confidence, and that it's an act of self love. We also talk about her process on how to get organized, where to start, how to let go of things you no longer need, and more! 

To learn more about Amanda follow her on Instagram @eversoorganized and check out her website https://www.eversoorganized.com/

You can also use code BREAKUP10 for 10% off her digital courses at https://eversoorganized.mykajabi.com/courses

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#59: Break Up Questions I’m Most Often Asked Pt. 1

Is it normal to dream about my ex? How long do I have to practice No Contact for? My ex has some of my stuff, what do I do? Should I reach out to my ex on their birthday? When is it ok to start dating again? How is my ex already dating someone new? And more!

In this episode I do a rapid fire of 10 of my most commonly asked questions about break ups. These are questions that I get DM'd about the most but they're not big enough topics to cover in a full episode. This will be part of an ongoing series so stay tuned!

Is it normal to dream about my ex? How long do I have to practice No Contact for? My ex has some of my stuff, what do I do? Should I reach out to my ex on their birthday? When is it ok to start dating again? How is my ex already dating someone new? And more!

In this episode I do a rapid fire of 10 of my most commonly asked questions about break ups. These are questions that I get DM'd about the most but they're not big enough topics to cover in a full episode. This will be part of an ongoing series so stay tuned! 

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#58: Let’s Talk About Cheating + Break Ups

In today's episode we are talking about cheating and infidelity with Dr. Morgan Cutlip. We had a really interesting discussion about the different reasons as to why people cheat, how common is cheating, how to recover from the betrayal of being cheated on, how to rebuild trust in future relationships, what signs to look for in dating, and I asked her is it true that once a cheater, always a cheater? Dr. Morgan Cutlip is a wealth of knowledge in relationships and shared so many great insights on this topic.

In today's episode we are talking about cheating and infidelity with Dr. Morgan Cutlip. We had a really interesting discussion about the different reasons as to why people cheat, how common is cheating, how to recover from the betrayal of being cheated on, how to rebuild trust in future relationships, what signs to look for in dating, and I asked her is it true that once a cheater, always a cheater? Dr. Morgan Cutlip is a wealth of knowledge in relationships and shared so many great insights on this topic.

To learn more about Dr. Morgan Cutlip:

Instagram: @mylovethinks

Website: www.mylovethinks.com

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#57 Overcoming the Fear of Getting Hurt Again

Today on the podcast I'm talking about how to overcome the fear of getting hurt again. Once you start to think about dating again post break up, the fear might hit of "I don't want to feel this pain again, what if I get dumped again, etc". In this episode I outline how to prepare yourself to make sure you are learning from your past relationships to make better choices and decisions moving forward.

Today on the podcast I'm talking about how to overcome the fear of getting hurt again. Once you start to think about dating again post break up, the fear might hit of "I don't want to feel this pain again, what if I get dumped again, etc". In this episode I outline how to prepare yourself to make sure you are learning from your past relationships to make better choices and decisions moving forward. 

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#56: Dating + Attracting a High Value Partner with Benjamin Daly

This is the HIGHLY anticipated episode with Benjamin Daly who I know so many of you know and love. In this episode we talk about so many juicy topics- we cover why certain people won't commit, Benjamin's philosophy on dating, how to attract a high value partner, his thoughts on ghosting and more. Benjamin has such a great viewpoint on all things relationship, including one of my favorites "if he wanted to, he would" and "when a partner leaves it's creating the space for the right person to come in."

This is the HIGHLY anticipated episode with Benjamin Daly who I know so many of you know and love. In this episode we talk about so many juicy topics- we cover why certain people won't commit, Benjamin's philosophy on dating, how to attract a high value partner, his thoughts on ghosting and more. Benjamin has such a great viewpoint on all things relationship, including one of my favorites "if he wanted to, he would" and "when a partner leaves it's creating the space for the right person to come in." 

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To learn more about Benjamin and his offerings follow him on Instagram @benjamindaly 

Visit: https://www.whymendontcommit.com/

 

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#55 How to Break Up with Someone

Even if you aren’t in need of help breaking up with someone this episode will still be hugely beneficial. In today’s discussion I break down the best way to end a relationship with someone. I talk about how to know if it’s the right thing, how to prepare, how to have a graceful conversation, and how to best allow the other person space after you end it. If you’re someone who is going through a break up, you will get to hear why it’s actually a very respectful thing that your ex is not contacting you and more.

Even if you aren’t in need of help breaking up with someone this episode will still be hugely beneficial. In today’s discussion I break down the best way to end a relationship with someone. I talk about how to know if it’s the right thing, how to prepare, how to have a graceful conversation, and how to best allow the other person space after you end it. If you’re someone who is going through a break up, you will get to hear why it’s actually a very respectful thing that your ex is not contacting you and more.

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#54 Stop “Should-ing” Yourself Through Your Break Up

This week I interviewed Your Joyologist, Tricia Huffman whose soul goal is to help people claim their happiness and joy no matter what the circumstances. We discuss the danger of the word “should” and how it can prevent you from feeling your feelings, listening to your gut, and how it ultimately can make healing take longer. We talk about the power of the word “AND” how you can miss your ex AND know you’re not meant to be with them at the same time. We also talk about affirmations, how to avoid toxic positivity and more! 

This week I interviewed Your Joyologist, Tricia Huffman whose soul goal is to help people claim their happiness and joy no matter what the circumstances. We discuss the danger of the word “should” and how it can prevent you from feeling your feelings, listening to your gut, and how it ultimately can make healing take longer. We talk about the power of the word “AND” how you can miss your ex AND know you’re not meant to be with them at the same time. We also talk about affirmations, how to avoid toxic positivity and more! 

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To learn more about Tricia: https://yourjoyologist.com/

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#53 If You Run Into or Have to See Your Ex

In this episode I'm tackling the topic of if you run into your ex or if you have to see them on a regular basis. If you're someone who works with your ex, goes to the same school as your ex, or lives in a small town where it's only a matter of time until you run into them this episode is for you. I discuss how to handle it when you do, how to take care of yourself afterward, and how to not be full of anxiety at the thought of running into them.

In this episode I'm tackling the topic of if you run into your ex or if you have to see them on a regular basis. If you're someone who works with your ex, goes to the same school as your ex, or lives in a small town where it's only a matter of time until you run into them this episode is for you. I discuss how to handle it when you do, how to take care of yourself afterward, and how to not be full of anxiety at the thought of running into them.

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#52 Turning Heartbreak + Trauma into Power

Today I interviewed Taylor Higgins, international best-selling author of Between the Stitching, a memoir where she describes her experience going through a narcissistic and abusive relationship. In this episode we talk about her experience healing, how she used writing and advocacy helped her turn her pain into healing, how she built her life back after the relationship, and how she learned to trust herself and others again. 

Today I interviewed Taylor Higgins, international best-selling author of Between the Stitching, a memoir where she describes her experience going through a narcissistic and abusive relationship. In this episode we talk about her experience healing, how she used writing and advocacy helped her turn her pain into healing, how she built her life back after the relationship, and how she learned to trust herself and others again.

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#51 Letting Go of Future Plans with your Ex

A question I'm asked often is "how do I let go of the idea of a future with my ex?" I know that when you're in a relationship you make a lot of plans and start envisioning the rest of your life with that person. Then a break up happens and rips that away. In this episode I discuss how you can reclaim your future, how to get excited about your own future, how to accept change, and more! 

A question I'm asked often is "how do I let go of the idea of a future with my ex?" I know that when you're in a relationship you make a lot of plans and start envisioning the rest of your life with that person. Then a break up happens and rips that away. In this episode I discuss how you can reclaim your future, how to get excited about your own future, how to accept change, and more! 

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#50 Exploring Love Addiction + Codependency

Today I interviewed Sherry Gaba, LCSW who is a psychotherapist and love coach specializing in love addiction and codependency. In this episode we discuss love addiction- what it is, what harm it can do, where it comes from, and how to heal from it. We also discuss the difference between obsession and love, how to maintain your own sense of self in the relationship and more. This is so important not only in letting go of an ex when you feel like you're addicted but also in your future relationships. 

Today I interviewed Sherry Gaba, LCSW who is a psychotherapist and love coach specializing in love addiction and codependency. In this episode we discuss love addiction- what it is, what harm it can do, where it comes from, and how to heal from it. We also discuss the difference between obsession and love, how to maintain your own sense of self in the relationship and more. This is so important not only in letting go of an ex when you feel like you're addicted but also in your future relationships. 

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Love Smacked on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Love-Smacked-Relationship-Codependency-Everlasting/dp/1628657405   

Free Gift. Filling the Empty Heart Ebook and Love addiction quiz https://wakeuprecovery.com/love-addiction-quiz/

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#49: Stop obsessing on the could haves + should haves

In today's solo episode I'm talking all about the could haves and should haves that we all experience post break up. Where you're up at night replaying every conversation you had with your ex trying to figure out what went wrong or obsessing about what you could have done differently so the break up didn't happen. The could haves and should haves are a very universal part of a break up but they can be so destructive. In this episode I talk about why we obsess on them, why it's so harmful to break up recovery, the different between shaming and learning, and how to stop yourself from obsessing about them too much.

In today's solo episode I'm talking all about the could haves and should haves that we all experience post break up. Where you're up at night replaying every conversation you had with your ex trying to figure out what went wrong or obsessing about what you could have done differently so the break up didn't happen. The could haves and should haves are a very universal part of a break up but they can be so destructive. In this episode I talk about why we obsess on them, why it's so harmful to break up recovery, the different between shaming and learning, and how to stop yourself from obsessing about them too much.

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#48: Self Love is the Real Happy Ever After

Today I interviewed Ashley Vives, Self Love & Confidence Coach and we talked all about the journey to self love. We discussed how she went from being left at the altar to being in an abundantly healthy marriage and more importantly a beautiful relationship with herself. In this episode we discussed how a rock bottom break up for Ashley turned into a dedication to growth and self love, how Ashley turned her pain into being able to help others love themselves, how she manifested her husband, and what she believes happy ever after to really be. 

Today I interviewed Ashley Vives, Self Love & Confidence Coach and we talked all about the journey to self love. We discussed how she went from being left at the altar to being in an abundantly healthy marriage and more importantly a beautiful relationship with herself. In this episode we discussed how a rock bottom break up for Ashley turned into a dedication to growth and self love, how Ashley turned her pain into being able to help others love themselves, how she manifested her husband, and what she believes happy ever after to really be. 

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ashleyvives.com or on Instagram @coachashleyvives 

You can also check out all of her current offerings here.

Ashley is currently launching a bundle deal giving you two courses for a fraction of the price until Thursday, February 18th:

Walk & Talk with Confidence + Step Into Your PowHER. Here's the link to check it out >>> Bundle of Joy

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#47 How to make it through the toughest days of your break up

Break ups are hard in general but we all know there are days that are realllllyyyyy hard. This can be your birthday, your ex's birthday, your anniversary, Valentine's Day, or on no particular day at all. In this episode I go over all of my tools to help you prepare for days like this and also how to deal on that particular day. 

Break ups are hard in general but we all know there are days that are realllllyyyyy hard. This can be your birthday, your ex's birthday, your anniversary, Valentine's Day, or on no particular day at all. In this episode I go over all of my tools to help you prepare for days like this and also how to deal on that particular day. 

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#46: Healing with Vulnerability + Intimacy

This week I am interviewing Katie H who is an Intimacy + Relationship Coach and we dive into the topic of healing using vulnerability and intimacy. We discuss the misconception that the only way to have intimacy is with a partner, how the most important relationship you have is with yourself, how to cultivate a personal vulnerability + intimacy practice, and more!

This week I am interviewing Katie H who is an Intimacy + Relationship Coach and we dive into the topic of healing using vulnerability and intimacy. We discuss the misconception that the only way to have intimacy is with a partner, how the most important relationship you have is with yourself, how to cultivate a personal vulnerability + intimacy practice, and more!

To work with Katie and learn more: https://www.katiehenrickscoaching.com/

Follow Katie on Instagram @katieh.coach 

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#45: How to Lean on Your Support System (even if you feel like you don't have one)

In this episode I cover how to use your support system post break up, because let's face it- break ups are really hard to go through alone. First I cover how you might be underutilizing your support system and why- you feel like your friends don't know how to help you, you're afraid you're being a burden to them, you're afraid to be completely honest with your friends, etc. I also cover what to do if you really don't feel like you have a great support system. 

In this episode I cover how to use your support system post break up, because let's face it- break ups are really hard to go through alone. First I cover how you might be underutilizing your support system and why- you feel like your friends don't know how to help you, you're afraid you're being a burden to them, you're afraid to be completely honest with your friends, etc. I also cover what to do if you really don't feel like you have a great support system. 

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Episode 44: Journey through Codependency

In this episode I am welcoming back Amrit-Sadhana for a Part 2 interview where we dive into her journey of overcoming codependency after her marriage ended. In the interview we discuss what was her turning point in realizing that she was codependent, where it stemmed from, what she learned about codependency along the way, how she got comfortable being single, and what dating has looked like.

In this episode I am welcoming back Amrit-Sadhana for a Part 2 interview where we dive into her journey of overcoming codependency after her marriage ended. In the interview we discuss what was her turning point in realizing that she was codependent, where it stemmed from, what she learned about codependency along the way, how she got comfortable being single, and what dating has looked like. 

To find out more about Amrit-Sadhana you can follow her on Instagram @bodyblisslife as well as her website www.bodyblisslife.com

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Episode 43: What do break ups + getting sober have in common?

I recorded this episode on my 8 year sobriety anniversary! I share more about my journey to getting sober and how I've been able to stay sober throughout my entire 20's. Most importantly in this episode I talk about the commonalities between breaking up and getting sober. 

I talk about 7 things in common including: one day at a time, remembering the pain is going to pass, changing your environment, the no contact rule, blessing in disguise and more! You don't have to be someone who is sober or even wants to get sober to listen to this episode, it's full of great practices and principles no matter where you're at in life and your break up. 

I recorded this episode on my 8 year sobriety anniversary! I share more about my journey to getting sober and how I've been able to stay sober throughout my entire 20's. Most importantly in this episode I talk about the commonalities between breaking up and getting sober. 

I talk about 7 things in common including: one day at a time, remembering the pain is going to pass, changing your environment, the no contact rule, blessing in disguise and more! You don't have to be someone who is sober or even wants to get sober to listen to this episode, it's full of great practices and principles no matter where you're at in life and your break up. 

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Episode 42: The Truth about Narcissistic + Toxic Relationships

On today's episode I interview Dr. Jaime Zuckerman (Dr. Z) who is a licensed clinical psychologist based in Philadelphia and we talk all about narcissistic and toxic relationships. Toxic and narcissist are buzz words that are thrown around a lot these days and so Dr. Z sets the record straight on what a toxic relationship looks like and what a narcissistic relationship looks like. 

We talk about the signs you might be in a relationship like that, what does a relationship with a narcissist look like, can they ever change, how to heal, and I share a lot of my own personal journey of going through a toxic relationship and how I was able to heal. 

On today's episode I interview Dr. Jaime Zuckerman (Dr. Z) who is a licensed clinical psychologist based in Philadelphia and we talk all about narcissistic and toxic relationships. Toxic and narcissist are buzz words that are thrown around a lot these days and so Dr. Z sets the record straight on what a toxic relationship looks like and what a narcissistic relationship looks like. 

We talk about the signs you might be in a relationship like that, what does a relationship with a narcissist look like, can they ever change, how to heal, and I share a lot of my own personal journey of going through a toxic relationship and how I was able to heal. 

To follow Dr. Z on Instagram: @dr.z_psychologist 

www.drjaimezuckerman.com


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